I took a last minute trip last week to Detroit for a few days because the divorce was completed. I got to hang out with my parents, of course, and my cousin Rohit and his new wife Purvi at the Tigers game, and with my friend Marcus and his family. I wanted the chance to clear my head on a few things, especially, my future plans.
So, what does that mean? As part of the settlement, I stated that I was going to sell the house, so the house was put on the market this past Friday for $330k (MLS ID 683978). I have mixed feelings about this. I really love this house. This is the house that I would buy if I was single and I had moved to Denver. I had alot of plans for this house, and it has already been somewhat decorated to my specifications. Shruti only spent three weeks in this house, so it's not like this house reminds me of her. It's just empty because it's just me, so it feels a bit lonely at times.
So, while I was in Detroit, I kept trying to figure out what I want to do. Do I want to leave Denver or not? It's a hard choice for me now. The basic problem is that I don't know where I want to end up. I don't want to be in California. I have a long list of complaints that I've accumulated since I moved there in 1999. Chicago has always been a top choice, but it is flat, and I want to still be able to snowboard while my body can take it.
I guess I feel like there's a bit of unfinished business here. Denver has alot to offer, and I haven't felt like I've taken advantage of it. Partly because last year, I was too dependent on Shruti for companionship, earlier this year, I was sick, and now because I haven't committed to living here, I haven't tried hard. But I've started being a part of a few clubs though Meetup.com, so there are still opportunities to do things and meet new people. I moved here to also be able to be in the mountains.
The first big con of being in Denver is the lack of diversity. It's a very white city. The second con is that Shruti is still here, and I still would feel uncomfortable if I ran into her by accident.
I put myself back into the dating scene full time right after the divorce was settled. I'm back online on all of those sites. I've suggested to family and friends that they set me up with someone. I'm not looking to rush into something, but it would be good to get back in the game and possibly meet someone who definitely exceeds my wildest dreams. It's a bit weird, but it has been six months since Shruti has been around. Even though the divorce was settled fairly recently, we broke up in March. I can easily say that I'm over her now.
But that doesn't mean that I have forgotten how she broke my heart into a million pieces. I have not forgiven her for leaving me when I had CANCER. People have been asking me about my previous entry regarding the comment that this had to happen. Well, I never wanted the divorce in the first place. At the time, I felt like everything could have been resolved. But looking back at the thing that she did, yeah, divorce had to happen. I deserve much better than what she put me through. And I'm definitely looking for someone who is much better than her.
So, that now leaves me back to the original statement, do I want to leave Denver? I still don't have a clear answer. I hate to say "no" because a few ago, it was a definite "yes." I guess I still have a bit of time to decide.
So, what does that mean? As part of the settlement, I stated that I was going to sell the house, so the house was put on the market this past Friday for $330k (MLS ID 683978). I have mixed feelings about this. I really love this house. This is the house that I would buy if I was single and I had moved to Denver. I had alot of plans for this house, and it has already been somewhat decorated to my specifications. Shruti only spent three weeks in this house, so it's not like this house reminds me of her. It's just empty because it's just me, so it feels a bit lonely at times.
So, while I was in Detroit, I kept trying to figure out what I want to do. Do I want to leave Denver or not? It's a hard choice for me now. The basic problem is that I don't know where I want to end up. I don't want to be in California. I have a long list of complaints that I've accumulated since I moved there in 1999. Chicago has always been a top choice, but it is flat, and I want to still be able to snowboard while my body can take it.
I guess I feel like there's a bit of unfinished business here. Denver has alot to offer, and I haven't felt like I've taken advantage of it. Partly because last year, I was too dependent on Shruti for companionship, earlier this year, I was sick, and now because I haven't committed to living here, I haven't tried hard. But I've started being a part of a few clubs though Meetup.com, so there are still opportunities to do things and meet new people. I moved here to also be able to be in the mountains.
The first big con of being in Denver is the lack of diversity. It's a very white city. The second con is that Shruti is still here, and I still would feel uncomfortable if I ran into her by accident.
I put myself back into the dating scene full time right after the divorce was settled. I'm back online on all of those sites. I've suggested to family and friends that they set me up with someone. I'm not looking to rush into something, but it would be good to get back in the game and possibly meet someone who definitely exceeds my wildest dreams. It's a bit weird, but it has been six months since Shruti has been around. Even though the divorce was settled fairly recently, we broke up in March. I can easily say that I'm over her now.
But that doesn't mean that I have forgotten how she broke my heart into a million pieces. I have not forgiven her for leaving me when I had CANCER. People have been asking me about my previous entry regarding the comment that this had to happen. Well, I never wanted the divorce in the first place. At the time, I felt like everything could have been resolved. But looking back at the thing that she did, yeah, divorce had to happen. I deserve much better than what she put me through. And I'm definitely looking for someone who is much better than her.
So, that now leaves me back to the original statement, do I want to leave Denver? I still don't have a clear answer. I hate to say "no" because a few ago, it was a definite "yes." I guess I still have a bit of time to decide.
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